Losing Virginity: The Things That You Should Be Aware Of

Are you thinking about having sex for the first time? Is it as stressful as most people say it is? Or should you just head to the bedroom and get it over with? Check out this virginity guide to find out! 

First Times Aren’t Always Satisfying

For starters, the concept of virginity means different things to different people. Some people think being a virgin entails that you’ve never had sex with anyone before. That includes anal, vaginal, or oral sex. Others believe that you can masturbate, use sex toys, and practice oral or anal sex while still remaining a virgin. 


Regardless of how you define it, being intimate with another person for the first time can be daunting. If you want to sleep with someone, you first need to know that only you can make this decision. You can make it when you feel ready to have sex and when you know that it’s the right moment. 


However, we have to say that first-time sex is rarely a dream come true for most virgins. That’s why a lot of people avoid thinking about it too much. Many lose their virginity just to “get it over with.” There are several reasons for this. For one, first-time sex can be awkward because you won’t have any sexual experience to know what you’re doing. You or your partner could reach an orgasm, but even if you don’t, it’s totally fine. 

Luckily, there are ways to minimize the awkwardness and maximize your pleasure while losing virginity. Below, you’ll find several tips to make your first sexual adventure much easier and more pleasurable. 

Ensure Safe Sex

Before you try anything, remember that your sexual health should be your top priority. If you’re a virgin, you’ll need to be familiar with safe sex methods. This will keep you safe from sexually transmitted infections. Safe sex helps a lot, and it doesn’t only protect you from infections. It keeps you away from other health risks and prevents pregnancies. By making everything safer, it can ease your mind and allow you to focus on your pleasure. 


Generally, there are many ways to protect yourself, and you’ve probably heard of them already. That includes condoms, pills, implants, etc. If it’s your first penis-in-vagina sex, you probably don’t want to experiment with birth control or female condoms. The easiest way to protect yourself and your partner from the risks is to use a male condom. This should be both your and your partner’s responsibility, but it will also help you if you learn more about using condoms correctly. 

It Shouldn’t Hurt That Much

There are many different views on whether people feel uncomfortable during their first penetrative sex. First-time vaginal sex may hurt, but it could also feel good. In most cases, you could feel a combination of mild pain and pleasure. This could depend on how much hymen tissue there is in your vagina. If there is more tissue, you could be quite tight. You might feel pain when your hymen gets stretched out. 


One tip could be to use an artificial lubricant to make things easier. Lubricants can eliminate some of the pain by removing friction or dryness. Another way to minimize pain is to be fully turned on before you have sex.


What’s more, if you want to lose your anal virginity for the first time, it could hurt a bit more because your sphincter has never been stretched before. In this case, one way to eliminate pain would be to use lots of lube and prepare your butthole with fingers or sex toys. 

Virgin Men Tend to Cum Quick

If you’re a man, the chances are that you’ll cum too early when you have sex for the first time. This is completely normal, and it’s generally just a physical reaction to first-time penetration. It could cause an embarrassing situation, or it could pose some pregnancy risks if you’re not careful. 

If you’re scared of orgasming too early, you could try several techniques to potentially allow you to have longer sex. That includes stop/start masturbation techniques AKA edging. This is the practice of stopping all stimulation just when you are about to have an orgasm. When you introduce these repeating cycles of stimulation and practice them for a certain amount of time, you could potentially prolong your orgasm. Alternatively, you can practice with sex toys like vaginal masturbators or pocket pussies, but that will depend on your views on virginity.

It’s Okay to Stop In the Middle

Losing your virginity can be a stressful experience. That’s why it’s fully okay to stop if something goes wrong or if you feel pressured. If you feel discomfort at any moment, just stop and leave sex for another day. Alternatively, if it doesn’t feel good or you change your mind at any point, it’s still okay to tell your partner that you’re not enjoying it and that you want them to stop. 


However, remember to be honest about it. If you feel any pain and if it’s not your partner’s fault, tell them exactly why you wanted to stop. If not, they could get offended or think that they weren’t good enough.

Your Hymen Will Be Okay

As mentioned, you can feel some pain if your hymen tears. There could even be some bleeding, but this doesn’t happen to every woman. Also, some women have a lot more hymenal tissue. In that case, first-time sex could end with pain or bleeding. If you’re unsure, it may be best to visit a doctor to have your vagina examined. Just take note that the hymen tissue stretches over time. 

While it is usually linked with the loss of virginity, your hymen can tear or stretch in many other ways. Actually, the majority of women can tear their hymen inadvertently. This can happen during physical activities, exercise, injuries, masturbation, or even while using tampons. There’s nothing to worry about if it happens. If it happens by accident during everyday activities, it will not mean that you have lost your virginity. 

Your Body Should Be Maximized

Another way to make first-time sex more pleasurable is to make full use of your body. You can use your fingers or tongue to pleasure your partner in many ways while stimulating their erogenous zones. They should be able to do the same for you. Additionally, if you’re not a frequent masturbator, it will take some time to figure out your erogenous zones. A helpful tip would be to start masturbating often to improve your sexual confidence and learn about your body’s pleasure spots. 


Another thing that could play a huge role in your first-time sex is foreplay. You should try to have longer foreplay sessions with your partner so that you can reach maximum arousal even before penetration. This will make your body and your genitals even more sensitive to penetration, and it could significantly improve your experience. 

Final Thoughts

As you’ve seen, losing your virginity means different things to different people, but there are several ways to improve your first time while staying safe and maximizing your pleasure. Good luck!